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Better Relationships - Method A - The Action Journey

If you're stuck with no relationship, or with one that's not serving you, you'll probably be getting lots of advice on what to DO about it. If you're living with the DO-HAVE-BE approach to life, then your best bet is to work hard at finding the person(s) you want (and there's a stack of web sites willing to take your money to help you out). And, by the way, unless a bit of Method B starts to creep into the picture here, Method A won't work (as some of you will have already discovered).

Better Relationships - Method B - The Creation Journey

For a better way, you might want to consider the BE-DO-HAVE methodology:
BE - imagine what you want, envisage it, think about it a lot, then ..
DO - the things that you're inspired to do, then you'll ..
HAVE - the people and animals in your life that you're dreaming about.

It turns out that, by the law Of Attraction, we attract into our experience that which we give our energy or focus.

A word of warning

If you visited the Law Of Attraction page, you'll have seen the piece about "whether wanted or UNwanted". Most of us have some bad habits of thinking about (creating) our lives. We tend to define what we want by what we don't want.

Some stories

Consider the story of the woman, who when asked about the sort of partner she was looking for said "Well I don't want a couch potato, I don't want a smoker and I don't want a sports fanatic". This is a clear example of someone who's dwelling on the parts of previous relationships that she did NOT want. Unless this changes, guess what she's going to be attracting!

Another story I found helpful was that of a recently-divorced woman at an Abraham-Hicks seminar seeking advice. Abraham began by asking what there was about her previous partner that she liked. The woman responded "No - you don't understand, I don't want a reconciliation, I want a new partner". To which Abraham responded, "Yes, but we need to start by finding out what you want, not what you don't want".

The same is true for those of us in existing relationships. If we continue to focus on (give energy to) what we want, then either our exsting partner will deliver more of it, or they will vibrate out of our existence - without trauma and without fuss - and new relationships will easily form.

So here's the choices
- use Method A - the action journey - the hard way - work at it no matter how you feel, or
- use Method B. Method B takes "work" also - but it's a different sort of work.

Your "work" is to get to the place of feeling better.

It's simple but it isn't necessarily easy - because it means new habits of thinking - habits you've spent a lifetime solidifying. But it can be done. For some tips and techniques that I've found useful, see my "Self-Help" page by clicking relationships .

I've also compiled a Relationship Quiz that might help you to see where you're vibrating with relationships.